Subscribe to Tonka Beans newsletter to be the first to know about new blog posts.


Law of Attraction

8 x 10 for web finding chemistry.jpg

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

~ Albert Einstein

It was in the Fall of 2006 when I first became aware of the Law of Attraction.  It’s based on the premises that our thoughts and feelings have the power to transform our reality.  The three simple steps for practicing the Law of Attraction are: ASK, BELIEVE, & RECEIVE.  To “ask” is simply to state to the universe, (source energy, God, Goddess whatever it is you call it), your desire.  Put it out there!  It’s less of a question and more of a statement.  Say it out loud, write it in a journal or create a vision board to let the universe know exactly what it is you want to manifest into your life.  After stating your desire you have to believe that it’s already come true.  This part takes a bit more dedication and must become a regular practice.  For people with an active and vivid imagination, this part is easy.  Simple daydreaming about what your life would feel like after having obtained your desire and then harnessing those feelings in the moment so that it feels as if you have actually received your gift from the universe.  The longer and more frequent the “believing” part is practiced, the faster the results.  I like to think of it like building neuron pathways in the brain.  To learn any new skill it needs to be practiced on a regular basis.  The more often we practice, the stronger those new pathways in the brain begin to grow.  Whether it’s learning to play an instrument or developing the perfect jump shot, our input will directly correlate to the results we witness.  Once believing has been mastered the universe just follows the Law of Attraction and delivers our request.  To then make that request real we have to be ready to receive.  This means that the universe may not change our life instantly, like flipping on a light switch, but rather open a door for us.  Opportunities begin to cross our path and we must be willing and ready to walk through those doors and harness the reality we manifested for ourselves through asking and believing.

 Since learning about and practicing the Law of Attraction over the years I have come to believe in its validity.  I have tasted it’s sweet, sweet fruit and also, sometimes, that fruit tasted bitter.  The bitterness made me keenly aware of is how important it is to be clear about what it is you actually want.  That age old saying, “Careful what you ask for because you just might get it,” plays true.  I’m currently entering my third year being in a relationship with a man who still makes my heart skip a beat when he walks into the room.  It took a long time getting here, as all my closest friends can corroborate.  For the longest time I was asking for the wrong things in a partner.  I was specific about certain skills I wanted a partner to have and wanting their life goals to match my life goals.  The universe was more than willing to deliver but it just wasn’t a package that I really wanted.  You see, there are plenty of people with similar goals and desired skill sets that aren’t in any way compatible with me.  I ate the fruit, but it was not sweet.  Instead, I updated my desires.  It wasn’t important what type of abilities a partner had.  What was the most important was how they made me feel.  I wanted a man who would make me feel heard and respected, who would inspire me to be the best version of myself including living a healthy lifestyle and supporting my dreams, and a man who’s generous nature fills my heart with joy.  It didn’t matter if he was a doctor or a farmer.  All that mattered were the needs of my heart.

 “Finding Chemistry,” 16 in x 20 in, was inspired by my current relationship with a wonderful man.  I think of relationships like a dance.  There’s a give and take balance that’s needed for a dance to stir the most seducing attention…well, that and chemistry, of course.  Once two people make a spark, it’s up to the both of them to keep fueling the flames, keep the dance moving gracefully and to keep the love alive.